The Kaddish is a prayer that praises God and expresses the longing for His Kingdom to be established on Earth. It is recited at the conclusion of some prayers in the synagogue, after reading the Torah, after a religious discourse, and when someone is in mourning. It is written in Aramaic, except for the last prayer, as the practice of reciting the Kaddish developed in Babylon, where most Jews spoke Aramaic.
The Kaddish was originally recited by the rabbi upon finishing a midrash or agadah and bidding farewell to his students. They would respond: “May His Great Name be praised for all eternity.” The oldest version dates back to the Second Temple period and is what we know today as Hatzi Kaddish (half Kaddish). The opening words, Ytgadal be Ytkadash, are inspired by a verse in Ezekiel (28:23), where the prophet imagines the time when God will be recognized as the greatest in the eyes of all nations.
By the 6th century CE, the kaddish was already incorporated into the prayers as a separation between its different parts. The custom of mourners reciting the kaddish originates when Torah study began in the house of mourning, with the aim of gaining greater merit for the deceased, and it was said at the end of the study. After the massacres during the Crusades, the kaddish became definitively tied to the mourning ritual. Initially, it was recited only upon the death of a scholar, but later it was recited at every burial so as not to embarrass others.
During synagogue prayer, four types of kaddish are generally used: 1. The Hatzi Kaddish, or half-kaddish, which is interspersed between prayers, such as between the Shema and the Amidah. 2. The Yatom Kaddish, or mourner’s kaddish, which is said only by those who are grieving or commemorating the yorzait (anniversary of the death) of a family member and requires a minyan (ten people) to be recited. 3. The Shalem Kaddish, or full kaddish, which is said at the end of prayer; and 4. The Rabanan Kaddish, or the rabbinical kaddish, which is said at the end of a sermon, especially by those who are grieving.
Although women were not permitted to say the mourner’s kaddish in Orthodox Judaism, this has been changing. Some Orthodox organizations, such as Beit Hillel in Israel or the Union of Hebrew Congregations in Great Britain, already allow and support it. Henrietta Szold, founder of Hadassah/WIZO and one of the eight daughters of a Baltimore rabbi, was offered by a close friend that he could say Kaddish for her when her mother died. Henrietta replied: “I think the intention was to free women from the obligation to fulfill some of the mitzvoth because of their responsibility to care for the family. But now they can fulfill those commandments, and that doesn’t make it any less valuable than if a man did it.”
Without a doubt, saying Kaddish has a therapeutic effect for the mourners. Since it requires a minyan to say it, it forces them to go out and be with people, instead of staying locked up in the house. Praising God while suffering the pain of losing a loved one may seem contradictory, but this act opens the way to comfort and a new relationship with the Creator of life. Praise God is given in the most difficult moments. Praise God is given when life is difficult to understand. That is why death is not mentioned in the Kaddish.
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Bibliography: Articles by: Cyrus Adler, Kaufmann Kohler, Judah David Eisenstein, Francis L. Cohen, David Golinkin, and Joseph Telushkin.